How ‘growing up with Narcissists’ still affects you


Whether it was your teachers, parents, fellow students or friends who make or made you feel inferior and that you aren’t good enough, narcissism has affected your personality and mental health, more than you think. Self-absorbed people tend to create a guilt factor in your subconscious mind, that continues to haunt you until you take charge.


You must be aware of the internal damage, certain behaviours might be having on you. However, this is a long-term psychological effect, it’s never too late to identify them and take stringent decisions in order to evade mental illnesses and behavioural issues ahead… Here are 6 ways you can identify the effects narcissistic personalities have had or may have on your life:


  1. 1. Low self-esteem: It is often said that lack of appreciation by near and dear ones leads to the development of a low self-esteem and self-hatred. So, if you feel so, you should try making a list of your strengths and weakness to realise your worth with the idea of being a failure. In the words of Zig Ziglar. “Failure is an event, not a person.” - Hence, all you need to do is move the past and try to build a renewed self for a better future...

  2. 2. More frustration and less confidence: A person with low self-esteem often reflects his self-worth in his/her performance, overall mood and behaviour as well as his/her approach towards life. An increasingly dangerous inferiority complex, induced by self-obsessed people, interferes with your ability to communicate and convey your ideas. This makes you feel inhibited, unsure, fearful and dubious about your inherent capabilities.

  3. 3. Anxiety takes over making you antisocial: Growing up with people, who have always undermined you, will gradually lead to the development of social anxiety. This will prevail a lifetime, where fear and anxiety of being negatively judged and evaluated by other people will constantly haunt your mind. However, people who are able to overcome this, become the best group leaders.

  4. 4. Loss of your sense of individuality: If you have always been imposed with others’ sense of right and wrong, views and opinions, over time, you are likely to lose your capability to have one. It is important to have your individual voice and opinion, one that is raised when the time comes. Shackled thoughts and desires are of no good if you keep them trapped with doubt.

  5. 5. A recurring inability to say ‘NO’: You are often taken advantage of, because of your inability to say no. If you’re always trying to keep people happy and impressed, it’s high-time for you to start thinking of yourself, instead. Speaking your mind can help you avert heartbreaks, disappointment and narcissistic people from your life.

  6. 6. A constant self-blame and self-critical mode: Due to the constant false guilt you may end up taking the blame for anything and everything that goes wrong at home, workplace, or relationship. Such situations often lead to the feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness, depression and in severe cases, even suicidal thoughts. If you feel like taking the blame, punishing yourself or withdrawing from your close ones, you must take it as a wake-up-call and talk to a confidante.  


Similar situations and experiences may be encountered by anyone at varying intensities but, you must try and take a step for change. If you feel, someone you care about might be going through a similar turmoil or has a disturbing past, you must take some time out and start a conversation about it. You may become an inspiration for him/her to shed the inhibitions and start over afresh...